Service Cats: Does My Cat Need A Friend

Meow and welcome to another Service Cat Monday. We seem to be getting’ a later start these days, but we do hope you’re enjoyin’ these posts. Let me get the disclaimers outta the way and we’ll jump right in to today’s posty. The followin’ post will be written in human English fur reader and translator ease. Our Service Cat Monday posts aren’t intended to be an all inclusive Trainin’ Manual but rather Tips, Tricks and Techniques used/developed by mommy thru her many years of animal trainin’, cats in purrticular. And to offur insight into your questions. Ifin you have any questions or topics you would like us to cover, purrlease let us know in the comments section or send us an email. When asking behavioral questions, purrlease be as specific as pawssible. And, ifin you’ve missed any of the posts in this series, you can ketch up by clickin’ the links at the end of this post. Always remember, Training is all ‘bout Repetition and Rewards.

 

 Dezi laying in cat tree in new harness

 

 

So, last week we talked about Training kitty to play with toys and not hands or feet. Awnty Juliea had asked a 2 part question; the second part being about getting a playmate or “Buddy Cat” for her newly adopted Patzy. So today, we’re going to discuss the dynamics of adding a second cat to your home. Does your kitty want a friend? Would adding another cat help calm an Aggressive cat? Is my cat lonely? Am I adopting another cat for the right reasons? All of those and more are loaded questions; but questions we get asked a lot. Each cat is different, and will respond to a new addition in a variety of ways.

 

 Dezi and Raena atop the liberty cat tree with Yeowww toy

 

 

In recent years some shelters and rescues will only adopt young kittens in pairs. The idea being that if they grow up together, they will be happier and better pets. More often than not, kittens raised together will bond and become the best of friends, however, the opposite can also be true. Even littermates can grow into enemies. While this is rare, it can and does happen.

 

Dezi looks at Raena at the top of the Liberty cat tree

 

 

So, you adopted a kitten between the ages of 6 months and a year old. Kitty is a little more aloof than you had expected, or has some undesirable behaviors. Will adding another kitty help? Your needs, desires and wants must be secondary. Always make your resident cat’s personality and needs first. Do Not rely on a second kitty to change the behaviors of the resident cat. Kittens learn boundaries from their mothers and littermates in the first 6 to 8 weeks. A cat that was taken away from his/her mother too young will miss out on some of those lessons. A “Friend” or “Buddy Cat” is not the same. It’s better to Train the resident cat appropriate behaviors before introducing a friend in the mix. As we’ve discussed in earlier posts, introducing a new cat into the home can often come with it’s own challenges.

 

 Dezi cares for Raena atop the Liberty cat tree

 

 

Although feral cats will gravitate to a colony for survival, and cats can live happily in multicat/pet households, they are by nature a solitary animal. That being said, we personally like to see more than one cat in a home. If you have a dominant cat, we suggest adopting a slightly older kitty with a more sedate personality. If kitty is more laid back, bordering on the lazy side, we recommend a slightly more playful kitty. And we do mean Slightly. It’s never a good idea to adopt an overly playful kitty/kitten as a friend for your older more laid back kitty. Although mommy and others have successfully integrated young kittens into homes with older cats, it poses quite a few challenges. Breed traits become very important when doing this. Remember, your resident cat’s needs must be given priority.

 

 Raena stands on perch and looks out door

I’s can see any intruder from here.

 

 

Awnty Juliea did make note that Patzy reacted by hissing and acting territorially when she saw another cat from her window in her yard. This is typical behavior and doesn’t really determine how a cat will act toward a new kitty in the home. However, there will be hissing almost anytime a new addition is added to the home. Cats have a hierarchy and this is one way they communicate that. Me still hisses at Raena every time she follows me up the cat tree and tries to trip me. Till the day she left us, sis Lexi hissed at me every time me stuck me’s nose up her behind. But, we loved each other very much and got along great, like me and Raena. So if you decide to add a “Friend” be prepared for some growing pains and hisses.

 

Dezi and Raena play

Well c’mon squirt, let’s play.

 

 

We recommend asking the shelter or rescue where you adopt kitty, how well they get along with others. We also recommend not waiting too long to adopt that new friend. The longer a cat lives a solitary (only cat) life, the less likely they will be to truly accept a “Friend”.

 

 Dezi and Lexi laying together on the bed

 

 

The hardest part about answering this question, is that we’re not there. We don’t know your cat, their personality or how they interact with others. So, of course we can’t give a definite answer as to whether or not you should adopt a new kitty. Remember, when you adopt a cat/kitten, it’s a lifetime commitment!!! Not an “Oooops, it didn’t work out” commitment. Watch your cat, if they’re truly lonely, they will give you signs, usually inappropriate behavior (severe pica, excessive meowing, excessive chewing, etc.). This can be corrected by you spending more quality time with kitty. We can’t stress enough how important it is to make the resident kitty a priority.

 

 Lexi and Dezi lay together on window perch

 

 

Do Not adopt a Friend for your cat, just because your resident cat isn’t quite what you had hoped for. What do we mean? Well, maybe you wanted a lap cat, but after getting kitty home, you discover they’re not much for being held, much less laying around in your lap. Again, a little extra quality time spent with kitty and some Training, can change that over time. But it’s unfair to the resident cat and the “Friend Kitty” to adopt a possibly unwanted friend just so you can have a lap full of fur. Our final remarks on this subject would be to adopt 2 kitties at the same time if you possibly can. This will improve the chances of acceptance and happiness in your home. We also recommend trying to adopt kitties around the same age and activity level. And always remember, every cat can use some Training. We wish anyone who is adding a kitty to their home the best of luck. And we thank you for saving a life. 

 

 Raena hugs Dezi while she lays on the brown cat tree

I’s luvs you thiiiiiiiiiiiis much sissy.

 

 

We do hope this has helped somewhat. Sorry we can’t tell you exactly what to do, but we think if you spend enough time with your resident kitty, you’ll get your answer. Don’t furget, ifin you’ve missed any of the posts in this series, you can click the links below. And be sure to leave any questions or topics you’d like us to cover in the comments section below, or send us an email. And remember, Training is all about Repetition and Rewards.

 

Till the next time……………………………………………..Be Blest!!!

 

 

 

Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses

 

Deztinee and RaenaBelle 

 

 

Service Cats

What to Look For      Training Foundations      Train Kitty To Massage

Smelling Disease      Do You Need One      Who Bears the Cost

Housing Laws & Exceptions      Accommodations & Common Sense

When the Handler Dies      Proper Training Methods Pt. 1 & Pt. 2

Easiest Task to Train      Getting Kitty Ready for an Outing

Discipline: Stop Countersurfing Kitty      Internal Disputes

Calling Emergency Help      Just What Is Kitty Capable of

Shad: Original Service Cat      Harness, Vest, Leash or Stroller

Dezi, the Wheelchair & Chest      Round and Round We Go

Tumble & Fall Response      Raena Calls for Help

The Rest of the Story     Raena & the Wheelchair Pt. 1 Pt. 2 Pt. 3 Pt. 4

When to Train      Explaining Rewards & Kitty’s Feelings

Stop Kitty’s Begging     Calling For Help Options Pt. 1

Medicating Kitty

Training the Pig Headed, Stallion Strong, Submissive Pup & Conniving Cat

Cats Love Training & Social Media Downfalls

Reintegrating the Scared or Bullied Cat      There’s No Bully Cat Breed

Going for a Walk When in a Wheelchair     Calming the Tiger Pt.1 Pt. 2 Pt. 3

Surviving A Remodel      Taming A Feral Cat

Designer Cats & Scent      DNA Doesn’t Change      Fighting or Posturing

Clicker Training & Operant Conditioning      Wheelchair Training

Basic Training Continues      Managing Without A Wheelchair

Are Spray Bottles Effective     Hands Are Not Toys

Blest Sunday: A New Old Window

Hey Raena, will you quit playin’ fur a minute and come help me write our Blest Sunday posty!!!

 

 Blest Sunday purple kitty clip art graphic

 

 

          But sissy, can’t you see what’s goin’ on? Look’it all this extra room we have now. And check out this new window we have to look out. What does it mean? Are we movin’ or somethin’? 

 

 Dezi watches from atop the Liberty cat tree

 

 

Yes, me sees it Raena. And no, we’re not movin’. We didn’t get that lucky. MOL  And, that window’s been there all along. You ‘member befur mr. W died he had bought this little freezer fur storin’ eatables. Well, he never used it and when he died, his furmily didn’t want it, so they gave it to us. ‘Course, we couldn’t use it either cuz we already had a big chest freezer that mommy couldn’t get in to. And, cuz of the bad wirin’ in our ‘pawrtment mommy didn’t wanna plug both freezers in and chance an outage. Mommy’s been wantin’ to sell that old chest freezer fur years, but couldn’t even get to it to take fotos. Well, the new old neighbors that helped mommy with the car, wanted that old monstrosity. So mommy gave it to them fur helpin’ her with the car, and they came to get it yesfurday. That’s why everythin’ was moved outta the dinin’ room and some things got boxed up. 

 

Dezi and Raena in hall way

Now where’d that cat tree go? It was here just a few minutes ago.

 

 

          I’s kind’a liked the brown cat tree bein’ in the hall. I’s got to see all kinds of new things sissy. Did you know ifin you paw at that round thing (smoke alarm) hangin’ on the wall long enuff it would scream like that? It sure was loud.

  

 Dezi atop Liberty tree with Raena climbing up to join her

 

 

Yep Raena, and it sure scared mommy. Me doesn’t think you were s’posed to be pawin’ at stuffs on the wall. Fankfully, the new old neighbors put the house back together befur they left. And, mommy furinally got to plug in that new little freezer. 

 

          Wha’d’ya’ reckon mommy’s gonna put in it sissy? 

 

Who knows Raena. Me’s just glad we got rid of that giant space taker. It had been a blessing that stayed far past it’s due date.

 

 Dezi looks at Raena from atop the liberty cat tree

 

 

          But, a blessin’ is a blessin’ sissy, and we’re fur sure blest kitties. So far, the car seems to be doin’ well. I’s heard mommy on the fone with the dentist office the other day makin’ a ‘pointment to get her teethies re-lined. Her mouth is healin’ right up. She’ll be in her purrmanent dentures befur we know it. Fanky fank the cats and all our angels, that bill has been paid in full.

 

You know what that means don’cha Raena? Ifin the car holds out, you’ll be goin’ to the V E T soon. 

 

 Raena lays belly up

 

 

          Yeah, I’s not lookin’ furward to that sissy, but I’s reckon, ifin mommy thinks it’s necessary, then I’s must need to go. Besides, I’s been sneezin’ a lot and mine’s eyes are really gettin’ gobbed up. Mommy says it looks like I’s have some allergy purroblems like her.

 

 

 

Me’s noticed that Raena. Me sure hopes they can give ya’ somethin’ to make you feel all better. We’re blest to have a mommy who cares ‘bout us so much. We’re also blest to have such pawsum furiends. Meowin’ of furiendly blessings, we wanna say fank you to uncle Pete, Timmy and the gang fur sendin’ us a few green papers to get us a little treat. With everythin’ that’s been goin’ on here lately, we’d all been a little blue and money’s been a little tighter than normal. We also wanna fank awnty Vonda fur sendin’ some green papers too.

 

          Yep sissy, things have been tight. Mommy’s been countin’ our food nuggets and sayin’ she sure purrays we have enuff to get by till our auto ship ships. I’s sure hope that doesn’t mean we’re gonna run outta noms sissy. What would we eat?

 

 Dezi and Raena eat Primal Freeze dried Cat food

Mmmmmm I’s sure do like mine’s Primal Freeze Dried Rabbit,

don’t you sissy? (Dezi meowmbles)  Don’t bother me Raena,

me’s busy eatin’.

 

 

Don’t worry Raena, mommy will figger somethin’ out. She always does. Mommy says God will purrvide. Anyways, we’re so fankful to have so many blessings and so many amazing furiends. We wanna remind everypawdy to take a minute today and every day to give thanks fur the blessings in your lives.  

 

          Don’t furget sissy, we’re linkin’ up with the Kitties Blue fur Sunday selfies.

 

 Dezi lays on floor

 

 

You just did Raena. C’mon, let’s go play and check out the view from the new old window. 

 

Till the next time…………………………………………..Be Blest!!! 

 

Dezi: Vibrant Blue 

Raena: Navy Blue  

 

 

 

Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses

 

Deztinee and RaenaBelle