Dezi: Well here it is Furiday again and what a week it’s been. Blogville sed goodbye to a favowit cat blogger 
and hello to a foo new ones. And wiff dat bein’ sed, weez fawt dat we wuld do a short series on grief and your fur family members. Weez fawt we wuld do one of those educational postys we purrawmissed you wuld see. Let me stawt by sayin’ dat there awe tons of web sites and books and all kinds of resources out their on gwievin’ inpets, so stead of wepeatin’ and copyin’ them, weez gunna tell yous ‘bout ow own expewience wiff gwief. And because me has not lost a furmily membew thank God, sis Lexi will be writin’ todays posty, and in hooman speak. So sissy take it away.
Lexi: Thank you Dezi. As a lot of you know I have lost 3 brofurs during my lifetime. Since I came into mommys house immediately after being born, this is the only life I’ve ever known. And when I arrived there were already 2 cats in residence. Devon, a 4 year old Himilayan, and Lucky a 28 day old Siamese. Of course there were plenty of fosters, but they came and went so quickly I never got attached. Not like I did with Devon and Lucky. I was a little over a year old when Devon took ill. I had grown up with him acting much like a father to Lucky and I. Suddenly one day out of nowhere He attacked me while I slept. Mommy of course intervened, but I was stunned. An hour later he was acting like normal again. I loved him and wanted to comfort him so I went to lay down next to him and so did Lucky. Things were fine until a few days later, and again out of nowhere he attacked me. Again mommy intervened, only this time she took Devon to the VET. After an exam and some tests mommy was told he most likely had a brain tumor and that treatments would cost a small fortune and would only prolong his life a short time.
(Don’t furget to hovew ovew da fotos to read captions.)
Mommy made the hard decision to say goodbye to Devon and return home alone. Lucky and I were very confused. We didn’t understand why Devon wasn’t with mommy. None of us had ever spent the night away from each other. Lucky and I didn’t eat dinner that night. Instead we both kept going from room to room and meowing for Devon. We also spent time sitting with mommy who had leaky eyes really bad. This kind of behavior went on for a few days. The only thing that changed is that Lucky and I began to eat a little. After about a week mommy sat down with Lucky and me and told us that Devon wasn’t ever coming home. He had gone to heaven where he was no longer sick. Although we didn’t completely understand all of mommys words we did understand she was talking about Devon and that she seemed as sad as we were. But she held us and comforted us and spoke softly and made us feel as though everything was going to be alright. We continued to look for Devon for a few more weeks, and during that time mommy increased our play time and treat time, and kept us occupied while we were awake. And at night she would sing to us as we massaged her to sleep. Eventually we quit looking for Devon and moved on.
Lucky and I became even closer through the years until the day he said good bye. We will save this for the next post as our relationship was much stronger. Please stay tuned for more on grief in pets. We hope to offer you tips and tricks and ways to deal with it and help your fur friends cope and adjust.
Til da nex time……………..Be Blest!!!
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses 
Dezi and Lexi
Service Cats U.S. 
Saying goodbye is never easy. Thank you for sharing your story on the pet parade.
ღ husky hugz ღ frum our pack at Love is being owned by a husky!
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No it isn’t, and time doesn’t make it any less painful, but weez wwanted to post and maybe help udders goin’ fwu da same fing, specially da animals in da house as sum peeps not wealize us animals gwiev too.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
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So sad, losing your friend is hard for both other kitties and humans. I am sorry you have had to face such loss Lexi and her mom. I hope Dezi never has to learn about that.
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Yes it’s vewy sad, and fank yous. Meez nevew wants to lose sis Lexi. Me tells hers dat hers has to liv furevew. And mommy and Dr. C makes suwe hers will hav da oppurrtunity too. 🙂 Fanks.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
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Saying goodbye to our fur furiends is the hardest thing to do. We’re sorry about Devon and Lucky.
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Yes it is. Animals awe here fur faw too short a time. Fanks.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
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It is always hard when you lose a cat and the one last surviving is almost 20 human years old. Mum didn’t get another cat until her last cat died as she was worried that the stress of having a lively one rushing about would upset her. We were lucky that we were in the right place at the right time.
Luv Hannah and Lucy xx xx
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Yous suwe wuz Hannah and Lucy. And yous hit da jackpot!!! And weez so glad to be yous furiends. 🙂
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
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That’s a really sad, touching story. I’m sure Devon will be loved forever in your family.
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Fank yous. Yes Devon will always be membewed and cawwied in all ow hearts here. 🙂 Mommy luvs deeply and gwieves deeply as most of da blogosphere duz. 🙂
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
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Dezi what a bittersweet post…..it’s got to be very difficult when you’re in a bonded trio of kitties to lose one so quickly. We’re so sorry about little Devon. Everyone deals with grief differently – humans and animals……it’s a very hard adjustment when the family loses a cherished member.
Hugs, Sammy and Mom
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Yep Sammy it’s vewy hawd to get past it. And so many peeps don’t unnewstand how weez animals gwieve so weez wanted to tell ’bout ow experiwnces and hopefully helo sumpady els.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
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Oh, Dezi, this is so heartfelt. When Granny’s Angel left for Furryland, I was looking for him too for a long time, also for Stranger, who wasn’t even family and Granny told me when her dog went to furryland, after almost 18 years, Angel was very sad too and he had to be treated with Homeopathic Remedies, so he could accept the loss. Soft Pawkisses 🙂
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Yep so many peeps don’t unnewstand dat weez animals gwieve too Binky. So weez fawt we wuld tell bout ow experiences and maybe sumpawdy kuld be helped to learn how to help their pets. 🙂
Luv ya’
Dezi
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A lovely post guys…indeed we have seen grief with ourselves and how it has impacted on the animals…Marbles changed overnight when she found Simba shot dead in our yard ..she assumed top cat role and refused to step outside…she only went outside when we sold the house and moved here to escape the horrid neighbourhood…and when Merlin went all the animals were much less stressed..they knew he had been sick for a long time..and I belive this was the difference…sending our loves Fozziemum xx
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Weez just hate to fink of yous poor Simba, and da pawful purrsun dat did such a horrific fing. Weez just don’t unnewstand peeps sumtimes. And weez sowwy to hear ’bout yous Merlin. Sumtimes when they’ve been sick a long time it helps da udders to cope, just like wiff hoomans. It still hurts, but yous can work fwu it a bit easier.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
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I agree..we will never understand some people..and Merlin indeed was a gentle sweetboy who we lost to FIV it does help to have time to say goodbye…with Simba we did not have that…and that is what hurt the most…Luvs Fozziemum xx
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Yeah Fozziemum it hurts no matter what but sudden seems to hurt da wrose. Sowwy fur yous losses.
Luv ya’
Dezi
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It’s so hard to say good bye to a beloved family member. And it’s so hard to make this decision, when all are at the end of all wisdom. Thanks for a wonderful post Dezi&Lexi&mom.
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Yes it is, and Lexi and mommy hav suwe had their shawe, so weez decided it wuld be good to shawe bout how us animals gwieve. Fank yous.
Luv Ya’
Lexi and Dezi
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I know that was a very hard time for you Lexi and Mommy. All these years and the many, many pets I’ve lost I never once thought that their fur family would grieve for them like us humans do. Not until I start having fur friends on facebook did I know that. I know now that they do as I’ve seen it first hand recently and read the many stories of others. This is information all pet people need to know. Thank you for sharing your stories with us.
Luv you all very much. Hugs and kisses.
Mary
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Fanks awnty Mary. Yes we gwieve just like hoomans, weez just can’t tell yous weez awe, so lots of times it’s ovewlooked. So weez fawt weez wuld giv a little insight on ow experiences.
Luv ya’
Dezi n Lexi
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