Dezi: Well here it is Furiday again and what a week it’s been. Blogville sed goodbye to a favowit cat blogger 
and hello to a foo new ones. And wiff dat bein’ sed, weez fawt dat we wuld do a short series on grief and your fur family members. Weez fawt we wuld do one of those educational postys we purrawmissed you wuld see. Let me stawt by sayin’ dat there awe tons of web sites and books and all kinds of resources out their on gwievin’ inpets, so stead of wepeatin’ and copyin’ them, weez gunna tell yous ‘bout ow own expewience wiff gwief. And because me has not lost a furmily membew thank God, sis Lexi will be writin’ todays posty, and in hooman speak. So sissy take it away.
Lexi: Thank you Dezi. As a lot of you know I have lost 3 brofurs during my lifetime. Since I came into mommys house immediately after being born, this is the only life I’ve ever known. And when I arrived there were already 2 cats in residence. Devon, a 4 year old Himilayan, and Lucky a 28 day old Siamese. Of course there were plenty of fosters, but they came and went so quickly I never got attached. Not like I did with Devon and Lucky. I was a little over a year old when Devon took ill. I had grown up with him acting much like a father to Lucky and I. Suddenly one day out of nowhere He attacked me while I slept. Mommy of course intervened, but I was stunned. An hour later he was acting like normal again. I loved him and wanted to comfort him so I went to lay down next to him and so did Lucky. Things were fine until a few days later, and again out of nowhere he attacked me. Again mommy intervened, only this time she took Devon to the VET. After an exam and some tests mommy was told he most likely had a brain tumor and that treatments would cost a small fortune and would only prolong his life a short time.
(Don’t furget to hovew ovew da fotos to read captions.)
Mommy made the hard decision to say goodbye to Devon and return home alone. Lucky and I were very confused. We didn’t understand why Devon wasn’t with mommy. None of us had ever spent the night away from each other. Lucky and I didn’t eat dinner that night. Instead we both kept going from room to room and meowing for Devon. We also spent time sitting with mommy who had leaky eyes really bad. This kind of behavior went on for a few days. The only thing that changed is that Lucky and I began to eat a little. After about a week mommy sat down with Lucky and me and told us that Devon wasn’t ever coming home. He had gone to heaven where he was no longer sick. Although we didn’t completely understand all of mommys words we did understand she was talking about Devon and that she seemed as sad as we were. But she held us and comforted us and spoke softly and made us feel as though everything was going to be alright. We continued to look for Devon for a few more weeks, and during that time mommy increased our play time and treat time, and kept us occupied while we were awake. And at night she would sing to us as we massaged her to sleep. Eventually we quit looking for Devon and moved on.
Lucky and I became even closer through the years until the day he said good bye. We will save this for the next post as our relationship was much stronger. Please stay tuned for more on grief in pets. We hope to offer you tips and tricks and ways to deal with it and help your fur friends cope and adjust.
Til da nex time……………..Be Blest!!!
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses 
Dezi and Lexi
Service Cats U.S. 
The first time I witnessed true grief in a kitty was when my Dusty died. KonaKitty was bereft, and looked for him for weeks. She’s never really bonded again with another cat…and when I go away overnight she gets very upset. It’s a real thing.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh so sowwy KonaKitty had to go fwu dat, as well as you. Yes we gwieve much da same as hoomans, we just can’t vocalize it to ow hoomans. And it sumtimes takes a while fur us to twuly bond dat way again. Me suwe hopes Kona can attach and luv anudder kitty mate sumday. But in da meantime yous awe there and dat’s all dat matters.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLike
It’s so hard to say goodbye, isn’t it? We are sorry about Devon and Lucky. Hugs to you.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes it is, but as mommy sez, it’s just anudder pawt of life. And god has always had anudder kitty standin’ in da shadows lookin’ fur mommy when a good bye wuz inevitable. Dat’s how me got here. And meez so gwateful dat meez mommy and sis Lexi let me into their lives. 🙂
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLike
It’s always hard to say good bye to a furry family member, as I well know. I’ve lost many of them myself. It’s even harder to make that final, loving decision, & then to choose to b there with them when they take that last breath. I wouldn’t have it any other way, don’t want them to go alone, u know? I miss all my angels.
Love u & mommy too…❤️❤️❤️
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yep awnty Theresa, mommy sez she unnewstands and wuldn’t want any of hers fur babies to be alone at da alst. She sed she nevew leaves us alone while weez livin’ she’s not gunna stawt wiff leavin’ at da end.
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses
Dezi and Lexi and mommy Audra
LikeLike
We’re so sorry about sweet little Devon. It’s so hard to say goodbye to a beloved one. (((BIG HUGS))) and thanks for sharing this post with all of us! ❤ xx Roxy & Tigerlino ❤
LikeLiked by 1 person
Fank yous, weez wanted to shawe how animals gwiev, or at least ow expewience wiff it in da hopes of helpin’ udders.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLiked by 1 person
It’s always hard to say good bye, The furry family grieves like humans, but it’s harder for them to understand. Thank you for sharing your touching story. Purrs
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes it is and yous wight. Dat’s why weez decided to post on this topic. As not all hoomans unnewstand how we animals gwiev.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLike
That was a very touching post on such a difficult subject. Smoochies from all of us.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Fank yous Brian. Weez want to hopefully help udders unnewstand how we animals gwiev too when their be a loss of a furry fwum ow house.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLike
we understand all two well lexi, frum kittehs ta pupz ta even silly hamsterz waaaaaaaaaay bak a long time ago, itz knot eazee on de peepulz ore de pets…
N frank lee we dont think peepulz reel eyesed until just ree cent lee.. that petz due inn deed grieve for one another…even wildlife grieves
any ma hoo.. pleez noe lexi yur familee iz livin large N in charge in heaven, N afturr all iz said N done, ….. sew will we all…
cept burds…
🙂
just kiddin ~~~~
heerz ta a safe happee long week oh end…may de bass bee bountee full in yur bowl ♥
LikeLiked by 1 person
Fanks dear ones. Yes weez not fink lots of peeps unnewstand how weez domesticated animals specially deal wiff deaff and gwief. So weez fawt weez wuld write on it and hopefully help sumone unnewstand a bit better. 🙂
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLike
Never easy to say goodbye. So many are grieving right now & it breaks our hearts. Thanks for sharing Dezi. Purrs to you & your family.
LikeLiked by 1 person
No it’s not and yes wiff all da loss wecently weez fawt it wuz an appropriate time to shawe how we animals get fwu da gwievin’ purrocess and how weez expewience loss. Fank yous.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLike
Dezi changes are hard. So very hard. Especially life altering ones. Grief and grieving is a life long process, it is something that become a part of the one who is experiencing it. I personally don’t think we ever stop mourning, we just learn to live with it inside of ourselves. I am still learning how to deal with the Grief, but I hope that one day the love will override the sadness. I can say with complete honestly that 381 days after losing Abby I am not in the drop to the knees anguish I was, so that is why I remain hopeful. Thank you for sharing your memories with us.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes they awe. And da loss of a beloved furry furmily member is just as hawd as anypawdy els. Mommy sez da gwievin’ nevew goes away it just gets easier to liv wiff, but it’s always there in da back of da mind and wesurfaces anytime yous fink yous might be near it again. Weez hope to help sumone/anyone wiff da gwievin’ and to unnewstand how us animals gwieve wiff ow posty. Fanks fur readin’.
Luv ya’
Dezi and Lexi
LikeLike
Yes it is hard to say good bye,I have lost a lot of pets over the years but luckily it didn’t affect the other pets,but since leaving home and living with the hubby I only have one rabbit at a time so it is only us that has to go through this,xx Rachel
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sowwy yous hav to go fwu it at all. Weez wish it didn’t hav to happen, but weez awe glad dat yous not had to help a furry furiend go fwu it as it be vewy difficult to help them unnewstand.
Luv ya’
Dezi
LikeLike