Service Cats: Reintegrating the Scared or Bullied Kitty

MeeeeeOW  Welcome to another Service Cat Monday. We’re really excited today. We got some great questions last week, so we’ll be addressin’ some issues that can happen in any household includin’ those with Service Cats. So far, the sun is shinin’ here, so we’re gonna try to get our visitin’ caught up today. We welcome all your questions, comments and suggestions, so purrlease leave ‘em in the comments section, or send us an email. As with all our Service Cat postys, the followin’ will be written in human English fur translator and reader ease. Our trainin’ posts aren’t meant to be a step by step trainin’ manual, but rather tips, tricks and techniques used and/or developed by mommy throughout her many years of trainin’ animals, cats in purrticular. Trainin’ is all ‘bout Repetition and Rewards. And remember, Rewards don’t always have to come in the form of food. Mommy purrfurs the Love reward system when training any animal, including food motivated dogs. Ifin you’ve missed any of the posts in this series, you can ketch up by clicking the links below. Now, let’s get to the questions.

 

Dezi laying in cat tree in new harness

First, because it’ll only take a few sentences, we’ve been asked why mommy prefers “Love Rewards” over “Treats”. The answer is pretty simple. Mommy realized she might not always have a treat handy, when she needed the animal to perform a certain command, but wanted to be able to reward the animal just the same. And when she started training cats, she learned really quick that not all cats are food motivated. In fact, for every one cat that is, there are nine more that aren’t. Those of you in multiple cat households have probably experienced this yourselves. And besides, who doesn’t want a little extra loving?.

 

Raena sits in mommys lapI’s luvs mommy luvvin’.

Our second question today comes from our sweet friends, The Tribe of Five at Feline Opines.net. Their sweet Jasmine had been bullied by a previous kitty in the home. Because of that bullying, she lives sequestered in her own part of the house now. When we read that comment, it made us all cry. We know several kitties that live sequestered for a variety of reasons, and it always makes us sad. Let me be clear!!! We know these kitties are well loved in their respective homes and aren’t being “locked away” or sequestered out of meanness or to punish them. Kitties should NEVER be locked in a room for punishment!!! For that matter, Kitties should NEVER be punished. Never the less, it makes us sad to hear about a kitty who doesn’t have the run of the house, and the companionship of all their family members whenever they want. Jasmine’s lady human is really sad about this too. The bully kitty is no longer in their home, but Jasmine is still terrified and when brought out of sequestering, fearfully runs back to her “safe place”. Some of the kitties go and visit with Jasmine in her “Safe Place”, but she doesn’t want to join them out in the rest of the house.

 

 Scared gray cat

 

Their question was, Would our training help Jasmine reintegrate back into the family and the whole house? In a word, YES!!! But of course, anybody who has ever been owned by a kitty knows, nothing is ever that simple in a kitty’s mind. So, what and how can they help Jasmine? Mommy says the first thing humans should remember, is that kitties can smell about 14 times better than humans; and scent lingers. No matter how long “bully kitty” has been gone from the home, it is possible for his/her scent to still be present in the house. Mommy recommends deep cleaning everything possible to neutralize the scents in the home. It’ll be kind of like starting fresh. Mommy loves steam, because it’s basically free, can be used on most surfaces and also kills bacteria. Now that you’re starting over, you go back to the beginning and play lots of “Scent Me Up” with all the kitties.

 

 Girl pets cat clip art

 

Do Not wash your hands, face, hair or clothes until after you’ve spread your scent as well as all the kitties scents on everybody/kitty in the house. Mommy also recommends wearing something you can live without for a while, because you’ll want to leave those heavily scented clothes with the sequestered kitty afterwards. We love the “Scent Me Up” game and play it several times a day. This helps to form a stronger bond with everybody/kitty involved. Now we’ll be honest and tell you, we’ve not had any luck with those Pheromone plug ins, sprays, collars or drops, but many people have, so if you’d like to implement their use, feel free to try them out. We would be interested in learning in how they work if you choose to use them. Mommy did find a spot on called Beaphar Calming Spot On that worked somewhat on me. They come 3 spot ons to a box and each one lasts a month. (We’re not being paid for mentioning Beaphar, we’re just trying to offer helpful ideas).

 

 Dezi lays in mommys' lap for some loving

 

The true goal here is to boost the self confidence of the bullied kitty. Mommy says you should make a small out of the way “Den/Hidey Hole” in the Living room, or whatever room the family traditionally congregates in your home. A carrier with the door off/open and towel over the top, is great. A closed box with a small opening cut out is also a good choice. A second “cubby” should also be placed in the sequestered area. Don’t forget to continue to play the “Scent Me Up” game every day. You can’t over play “Scent Me Up”, so have fun. Next you’re gonna want to swap sites and kitties. If at all possible, move the scared kitty in their “Cubby” to the open area and put the rest of the kitties in the “Sequestered” area. Don’t forget to close that area off, so scared kitty can’t get back in. Altho’ it sounds kinda mean, you’re forcing scared kitty to recognize there is nothing to be afraid of (anymore). The big bonus is that the other kitties are spreading their scent all over the “Sequestered” area.

 

 Raena watches worker clean the cat tree

A well adjusted, self assured kitty will have no fear

being in the middle of a room.

 

 

Whether scared kitty comes out of their “Cubby” or not, talk to them as if they were right in your lap. Hopefully, they’ll be there soon enough. Start with an hour and work your way up from there. If scared kitty likes treats or some kind of special food, or nip toy, give it to them while they’re in the congregation spot. If kitty’s still inside their “Cubby”, place the treats or food right in front of the “Cubby”, so they’ll have to at least stick their head out to eat. Same with the toy, place it right in front of the “Cubby”. And when allowed, give them lots of extra love. Do Not intrude on kitty’s “Safe Space” to pet them. Gradually allow one kitty at a time to join Scared kitty in the congregating spot. Mommy recommends when possible, that the first kitty should be laid back. Change out the scented clothing at least once a week.

 

Cat in under the chair hammockOpen Cubby example

 

Once scared kitty starts coming out of the “Cubby”, give them love and engage them with interactive play. Wand toys, feathers, mice, or whatever toy is preferred by kitty should be used. We’ve gotta tell you, those nip bubbles are great fun. Each kitty is different, so we can’t tell you how long this will actually take. But, remember, you must be consistent and do this every day. Work your way up to more and more play and feeding in the congregating spot and less and less fun and food in the “Sequestered” spot. If scared kitty hates getting their claws trimmed or brushing, make those the things you only do in the “Sequestered” area, so kitty associates the congregating spot with nothing but good things. And always remember, training is all about Repetition and Rewards. The pay off will be a smart, self assured happy kitty and home. We meowed a lot about the “Scent Me Up” game today. You can find the explanation/instructions in our Training Foundations post (link below). 

 

 Raena peaking out of a chewy box

Close da box so I’s can hide. MOL

 

We’re gonna call this a wrap. We do hope this helps some of you. And ‘member, you can ketch up on any posts you may have missed by clickin’ the links below. We’ve got some great things comin’ up fur ya’ this week, so stay tuned. We’ll be addressing another reader question next week, so mark your calendars. You don’t wanna miss it.

 

Till the next time……………………………………….Be Blest!!!

 

Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses

 

Deztinee and RaenaBelle

 

Service Cats

What to Look For     Training Foundations     Train Kitty to Massage

Smelling Disease     Do You Need One     Who Bears the Cost

Housing Laws & Exceptions     Accommodations & Common Sense

When the Handler Dies     Proper Training Methods Pt. 1 & Pt. 2 

Easiest Task to Train     Getting Kitty Ready for an Outing 

Discipline: Stop Countersurfing Kitty     Internal Disputes 

Calling Emergency Help     Just What Is Kitty Capable Of 

Shad: Original Service Cat     Harness or Vest, Leash or Stroller

Dezi, the Wheelchair, the Chest     Round and Round We Go

Tumble & Fall Response     Raena Calls for Help 

The Rest of the Story     Raena & the Wheelchair Pt. 1 Pt. 2 Pt. 3 Pt. 4

When to Train     Explaining Rewards and Kitty’s Feelings

Stop Kitty’s Begging     Calling for Help Options Pt. 1 

Medicating Kitty    

Training the Pig Headed, Stallion Strong, Submissive Pup, Conniving Cat

Cats Love Training & Social Media Downfalls                  

67 thoughts on “Service Cats: Reintegrating the Scared or Bullied Kitty

    1. We actually purrfur luv to treats. Mommy says all her kitties have always purrfured gettin’ luvved to even eatin’. Even now, Raena and me will eat a few bites and go over to mommy fur a few mintes of lap time and then back to our noms and then back to mommy and so on. She says she luvs it, but it can get a bit aggravatin’ when she’s tryin’ to do somethin’. ‘Course, we can’t ‘magine anythin’ more purrtant than luvvin’ on us. MOL Big hugs

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Raena

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  1. Its funny, but sometimes what goes around…comes around and its tough to deal with. When we first got Kozmo, Nellie bullied him! And it took until he was bigger than she was before she would stop, funnily enough, he never retaliated.
    THEN when Jo Jo came along…as soon as she was bigger than Nellie, she bullied Nellie. That is why she went to Calgary and then to Vancouver with me. When I was at work when Kozmo and Jo Jo were here from September to December, poor Nellie had to be sequestered when I was not at home and when I was it did not stop the merowing and hissing and boxing and terrorizing!
    And Love Rewards has always worked better than treats with any of my cats! Great Post!
    Barb

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    1. Mommy says you’re so right awnty Barb. She says, me pestered sis Lexi when me was young. Me doesn’t ‘member anythin’ like dat ever happenin’. MOL And now, sis Raena be a real pain in me’s behind. Mommy says, what goes ’round comes ’round. MOL Big hugs

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Raena

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  2. Ok, so my very scared kittie decided to live in tha cupboards in the basement because we had a young bully tuxedo cat. But even before that she was afraid of my 8 year old nephew who I adopted from my drugged out sister and brother in law. I know he my nephew wasn’t mean to her but his dad maybe was. I’m not really sure.

    It took Lucky couple of years before she would come out of the cupboards. I had to keep food, water and a litter box in there for her. She came from a way chaotic house to my fairly quiet house (meaning no yelling, fighting or chaos that comes with her former environment. I don’t know what she was so scared of. I gave her tons of attention!

    Then when she got tired of hiding she started to come out more. But her Tuxedo brother was such a bully I had to create a penned area where he could not get her. Do you think it’s normal for some breeds to be just bullies and pick on those kitties that didn’t have such an easy start in life?

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    1. No kitty breed is predisposed to bullying. However, cats smell fear and associate it with prey. Most cats don’t like chaos, and you’re not sure what kind, if any abuse actually took place. And while the child may not have abused the kitty in a way dat we would think of abuse, he may have done typical kid things to her befur she came to your home and he got older. A tail pull, ear pull, restraining her, startling her, squeezing her, stepping on her tail, yelling at her, all these things are things dat kids can and offen do which can cause a kitty to be afraid. We’re not sure ifin this is still an issue, or just a question regarding bullying breeds??

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Raena

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  3. I am always sad when there is a bully cat and the poor bullied cat gets chased or frightened out of the litterbox, etc etc. No way to live. I hope if anyone has that problem they see this and try to help the lonely one.

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  4. I’m always surprised that people don’t understand that just like humans, cats won’t always like each other. Most of the time, the conflict is an annoyance – but when it gets to the level of bullying, it can be very stressful for everyone involved. Bear Cat followed Kitty everywhere and just didn’t get the cues to leave her alone. I tried to give her her own room – but when I closed the door, Bear would make her even more nervous by howling and tearing carpet up outside the room. And the little booger couldn’t be distracted (no kidding – not even with love or food). She started hiding under the bed (there was little space so she could easily defend it) – and I got so used to that that I didn’t notice when she started hiding because she was sick. These are great ideas. My heart breaks for Jasmine. To answer your e-mail … yes, I’ve been meaning to make Bear a cat hammock but haven’t really taken the time to figure out how. Sending you ladies love and hugs 🙂

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    1. Oh awnty Kat, dat’s pawful. We’re sorry ’bout Kitty. Sis Raena, is a bit of an overbearin’ pest. Fankfully, mommy unnerstands nummer 1 and nummer 2, she doesn’t allow any kitty to get used to hidin’ out or retreatin’. Mommy says it’s easier to train durn’ da fact than to have to reintegrate. ‘Specially since we don’t actually have da extra space. Some kittys’ are just born alpha’s. As to da hammock, we’re gonna send ya’ another email. We can fix this. Big hugs

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Raena

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  5. Poor, scared kitties! That wouldn’t be me. I’d be the bullying cat.
    TW is finicky when it comes to my food but not so much with her’s. So wanted to get me the indoor formula until she noticed it had that vit K ingredient. She’s glad there was one without it. Thanks for telling me about it.

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  6. Thank you Raena and Dezi for your great tips and helping the female human get me integrated back into the Tribe of Five. We sure are blessed to have friends like you! We will keep you posted on my progress.
    Lots of love, Purrs and Head Bonks,
    Jasmine

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  7. dezi & raena….what an awesum post two day !!! we troo lee hope thiz helps jasmine; we noe she’s veree happee for all teh grate info ewe could give her N her mom !!! ♥♥♥ 🙂 we R gonna keep thiz post in R mindz eye for few chure refrence !!! thanx !!

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  8. I’m envious that you all are getting some sun! Another great post with such good tips! My neighbor kitty and her sisfur live in the same house and have never gotten along, even though they were from the same litter. They try to avoid each other most of the time. One has taken over the inside territory and the other has taken over the outside territory. Do you have any tips for households where you have two kitties like that that never get along? Mew Mew! Luvs and hugs.

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    1. This is da furst sun we’ve had in weeks Valentine, and we’re enjoyin’ it. Altho’ it would be lots more fun ifin we coulda gone fur a stroll with mommy. Dat’s really sad ’bout your neighbors kitties. Da techniques in this posty would also apply to kitties who don’t get along. Mommy says she’ll give it some more thought and we’ll post any other tips or tricks she can come up with. Big hugs

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Raena

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