Hey, is anypawdy out there? It’s me, RaenaBelle. Ya’ know, I’s a young kitteh so all this tech stuffs has been ‘round mine’s whole life. Catputers, cell fones, tablets and such are normal sights fur me. But mommy talks ‘bout a time when she didn’t have any of these things. I’s can’t ‘magine what life would’a been like without at least a catputer. But sure ‘nuff, mommy says there was a day when nopawdy had these necessities.
Raena, what are you meowin’ ‘bout now?
Fones and stuffs, sissy. You know that married at furst sight show we were gonna sign mommy up fur gave all those couples a challenge the other day to let their new spouses look thru their fones and all their messages and stuffs. Seems several of the men didn’t want their wives goin’ thru their fones. They claimed it was an invasion of purrivacy. And mommy said those girls oughtta run fur the hills. Mommy said that she ‘members when nopawdy had their own purrsonal fone to carry ‘round with ‘em, and any call or letter came to one address/home. Husbands and wives shared a fone, and didn’t make calls or send messages in secret, lessen they were doin’ somethin’ they ought not be doin’. So, it got me to thinkin’…
Oh MeOW You were thinkin’?
Sissy, that’s not nice. You better take that back or I’s gonna tell mommy. You won’t get any treats lessen you be nice. You know the rules, treats are fur good kitties.
Fine Raena, me’s sorry. What were you thinkin’?
Fanky fank ya’ sissy. I’s was actually wonderin’ ifin any of our furiends felt the same way as mommy? We don’t have a daddy, but I’s sure ifin we did, mommy would wanna know who he might be callin’ or sendin’ messages too; ‘specially ifin he had his own purrsonal fone. And why is it okay to keep secrets t’ween married peeps? We don’t have any secrets here. Mommy tells us everythin’ and we meow to her everythin’ too.
Well Raena, me doesn’t think secrets are okay in any relationship. Then again, maybe that’s why we don’t have a daddy?. One of those men from the show told his new wife that the minute she went thru his fone, they were done. You heard mommy tell her to run. After all, what could be so “purrsonal” or “purrivate” that his wife couldn’t see it?
Yep sissy, when he said that, I’s fur sure wanted to know what was in there.
Me too Raena. Mommy says, ifin ya’ wanna make a girly suspicious, that’s the way to do it alright. Maybe it’s a good thing we didn’t get mommy signed up fur that show. Any man who comes into our lives aren’t gonna be able to have any secrets.
That’s fur sure sissy, we meow ‘bout everythin’.
Yep Raena, that we do. As fur that trust stuffs, it has to be earned. Even then, it should be okay fur husbands and wives to share everythin’, includin’ fones.
Psssst Raena, can you keep a secret?
I’s agree sissy. So, what ‘bout ya’ll? We wanna know what all of you think ‘bout this topic and keepin’ secrets t’ween married peeps.
And kids too, Raena. Do ya’ll think it’s an invasion of purrivacy fur your spouse to go thru your fone or fur pawrents to go thru their kids fones? Inquirin’ minds wanna know. MOL
Oh sissy, you’re too funny. Well, guess we oughtta wrap it up. All this meowin’ ‘bout trust and secrets has mine’s head spinnin’. Let’s go play.
Till the next time……………………………………..Be Blest!!!
Raena: Navy Blue
Dezi: Vibrant Blue
Luvs and Hugs and Kitty Kisses
Service Cats U.S. 
Nope no secrets between couples…. Except for good ones like surprise presents and things like that!
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Well we agree with mommy. We think the only time there should be a secret might be for some kind of surprise. Like a party or something, other than that, no secrets! Secrets can only cause trouble, like lies! It is funny how much we’ve come to depends on all the technology!! Love you girls!
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So true angel Maggie and awnty Cindy. And we agree, surpurrises don’t really count as secrets. But that’s the only x’ception. MOL big hugs
Luvs ya’
Raena and Dezi
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Since we don’t have any children, I cannot comment about that, but I think husbands and wives need to have some privacy; he doesn’t need to know what I text my friends about, and I don’t need to know all of his stuff either. I don’t tell him when I spend $$ at the bookstore, and he doesn’t tell me that he purchased a case of car oil.
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Dang, the Mom and Dad look at each others phone all the time, it shouldn’t be a big deal! Love ya sweeties!
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We each have a cell phone, but rarely use them and neither of us knows how to text. He doesn’t go online, but I have no secrets on here from him.We are together 24/7, unless I am off with my mom shopping or visiting with The Great One so no secrets here. I agree that any man you date should not keep secrets.XO
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Fanks awnty Ellen. Sounds like ya’ll have the makings of a great marriage. ‘Course, we already knew that. Big hugs
Luvs ya’
Raena and Dezi
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Well, my husband and I each have a cell phone, and we each have personal email accounts – we also have each other’s passwords and the only time I would be upset about him checking on what I was up to is if I was planning a surprise party or gift for him.
Alas, I don’t think all couples make an effort to be that transparent.
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You’re right awnty Jeanne, and we think that’s why there are so many divorces and failed marriages. Ya’ll however, have a great marriage. Big hugs
Luvs ya’
Raena and Dezi
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IMHO hiding stuff would be a bother and it is much easier to be open. I’m sure there are others who disagree.
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forgot to say that parents with kids who are minors….YES the parents should have access to their phones.
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While I have nothing to hide, I would NOT like my husband going through my phone. I don’t go through his. I don’t have his email password, nor does he have mine, I actually can’t stomach spouses who share facebook passwords too. If someone doesn’t trust their spouse (until something happens to NOT trust them) they shouldn’t have married them to begin with. I also do not open mail addressed to my husband nor does he open mail addressed to me. I consider phones, email, facebook and all of that to be private. Doesn’t mean at all that you have secrets, it just means you are two separate beings who just happen to be married and you don’t have to share every single thing in your life.
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dezi & raena……de trubullz with sekritz iz they can leed ta liez, mis informationz, ore for goin a trust ~~~~~~~~ N de food servizz gurl sayz her rememburrz de day oh….. dial tela fonez…what ever they iz !!!!!!! ☺☺♥♥♥
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Mommy ‘members those too. MOL Big hugs
Luvs ya’
Raena and Dezi
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Trust must be earned and once you lose the trust there isn’t much left.
Have a purrfect day you two. My best to your mom. ♥
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That’s true. Big hugs
Luvs ya’
Raena and Dezi
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