Mommy, Why Do Our Friends Have to Die?

5 Ways To Help Your Pet Get Through the Grieving Process

 

Mommy why duz it have to get cold outside? Why duzn’t da sun always shine? Why don’t all kitties have a home? Mommy, why do our furiends have to die? And why duz me feel so sad when they do?  

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Oh Dezi you sure are full of questions today aren’t ya’? Honey, I don’t know why our friends have to die. I mean, I know that death is part of life, and the Bible says that it’s appointed unto man but once to die. (Hebrews 9:27) And that means all creatures who live on this planet, including our friends baby. Sometimes they just get old and their body gets tired and just can’t go on. And sometimes they get sick and there is no cure for what they have. And sometimes as awful as it is there are accidents that take our friends way before their time. Us humans have control over a lot of things, but only God controls life and death. God allows us all a chance to live and find happiness like we have with each other; until the day He calls us back to heaven. Our friends in heaven are no longer sick or old or in pain. As much as we loved them and wanted them to be a part of our lives forever, they are in a far better place now. The sads we are left with are called grief honey.

 

Grief comes in stages and no one can escape going through them. For humans the five stages of grief are:

  • 1.  Denial 
  • 2.  Anger 
  • 3.  Bargaining 
  • 4.  Depression 
  • 5.  Acceptance 

But animals grieve as well and we, your care takers should be sensitive to that. When an animal bonds with another animal or human, they grieve the loss of that animal or human. Grief in animals can be harder to spot because often the changes are subtle and can range in severity. Some of those changes are:

  • 1.  Appetite (eating less or not at all) 
  • 2.  Becoming more or less vocal 
  • 3.  Appear lost or confused 
  • 4.  Wandering in an attempt to find their lost companion 
  • 5.  Change in sleep patterns (sleeping more or less)
  • 6.  Spending more time with a toy or item used/favorited by their lost companion (clothing, blanket, bedding, etc.) 
  • 7.  Becoming more clingy to remaining household members
  • 8.  Acting Out 

These are just a few symptoms of grief in animals. As humans we must pick up on these subtle changes and do what we can to help you get through the grieving process. A few ways we can help are: 

  • 1.  Let survivors view the body of their lost loved one. ( funerals are for the living. A last chance to say goodbye and accept the finality of a loved ones’ passing.) 
  • 2.  Spend extra quality time with the surviving pet(s). Grooming, longer walks and more playtime are just a few ways to spend that extra time. 
  • 3.  Maintain your routine as closely as possible. 
  • 4.  Maintain discipline for those pets that act out. 
  • 5.  Depending on the severity of grief, adding a new animal to the household might be more stressful. Know your pets, you will be the best judge of when it’s time to bring home a new furry friend.

 

Although you can’t speed up the  grieving process, remember that cat’s shouldn’t go without food for more than 24 hours before it starts affecting their health. And if this process drags on, a trip to the vet might be called for to make sure there’s nothing physically wrong. Animals, just like humans will get through it. God has given us all the capacity to love, accept loss and love again. And also remember your anipals pick up on their humans’ emotions.  

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Fank you mommy fur takin’ da time to explain what meez sads are and how to help us anipals get fru it. Me hopes this will help meez furiends too. We have lost so many furiends this year and it’s still January. Me wants it to stop, but at least now me knows dat they are goin’ to a better place and dat me can get over da sads. Weez joinin’ Rascal and Rocco fur da Pet Parade and tomorrow weez’ll be sharin’ meez Carwood Derby entry fur Cat Scouts. Weez changin’ da day we share our adoptable furiends so stay tuned. 

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Do you know any other ways to help you or your pets get through the grieving process? 

 

Till da next time…………………………………….Be Blest!!!

 

Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses

Dezi and Lexi   

35 thoughts on “Mommy, Why Do Our Friends Have to Die?

  • Goodness what a sad but needed thing to post about. It sure seems like we have lost a lot of friends this past few months. It does help to know that they are now free of pain and are enjoying being healthy and young in a place of untold beauty and grace.
    Thanks Mom A and my gals
    Purrs
    Timmy

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    • Fank you Timmy. Ever once in a while we do need to go a bit deeper than all da fun and games. And yes, weez lost so many furiends over da holidays, this just seemed da right time. Sendin’ purrayers to all of you.

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Lexi

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  • Thank you for this important information. We had a hard time when our sisfur Cali ran off to the bridge. I walked around crying and looking for her and my other two sisfurs started fighting with each other. Mom bought some Feliway spray. She did not want to spend the money on the diffuser in case it did not work. She got a small bottle of the spray. Instead of spraying it in the air she put a couple of squirts on our bedding and the places where we hang out. It really did work. At first she had to respray every couple of days. Now she just resprays every once in awhile. Love, Andy

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    • Dat’s wunnerful. Weez not heard ’bout da spray afur, but da plug ins don’t work fur us eever. Loss is so very hard on everypawdy involved. We wish nopawdy had to go fru it.

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Lexi

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  • None of us kitties have personally experienced that — we are all only six and didn’t know any of the kitties who passed before us. We do get the sads though when we hear of our friends in the blogosphere who have to leave, mom especially.

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    • We get da sads everytime one of our furiends goes away. Me’s never lost anypawdy me was really close to eever, but sis Lexi has been fru it a few times and sez it’s pawful. And dat’ ’bout da onlu fing you can doo fur sumpawdy is purray.

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Lexi

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